Wedding invitation etiquette 101
For couples planning a wedding, it’s important to know when to mail out the wedding invitations, what information to include, and when to set an RSVP deadline. We’ve gathered all the important questions and answers about wedding invitation etiquette below.
“When should I mail out my wedding invitations?”
Typically, wedding invitations are mailed out six-eight weeks prior to the wedding date. This will give your guests plenty of time to confirm their attendance and make any necessary arrangements.
Tip: Before mailing out your wedding invitations, make sure you’ve selected and booked a wedding venue, and have determined a total guest count. This will help you avoid going over budget and accidentally inviting too many guests.
“Do I need to send out a save-the-date?”
If you are planning a destination wedding, or if your wedding falls around a holiday, it is recommended to send out a save-the-date in addition to a wedding invitation. Unlike a wedding invitation, a “save-the-date” informs guests to mark your date on their calendar, but doesn’t provide them with all the details, like the time and exact location. A “save-the-date” is mailed out anywhere between six to eight months prior to the wedding.
Tip: If you’re planning a destination wedding, include mention of the destination on the save-the-date so that guests can consider travel arrangements.
“What information should I include on the wedding invitation?”
Your wedding invitation should inform guests of the date, time, and locations of the wedding ceremony and reception. It should also include a dress code, a link to your wedding website, where they can locate your gift registry, and when and how to RSVP.
Tip: If you’re inviting a guest with a plus one, include the full names of both parties.
“Do I need to include a plus one with every invitation?”
Considering that a “plus one” can quickly add to your guest count and budget, it’s not necessary to include a plus one for every guest. If a guest is not married or in a serious relationship, it’s ok to invite them as a solo guest.
Tip: If a solo guest RSVPs with a plus one, give them a call and kindly let them know you are not able to invite everyone with a plus one.
“When should the RSVP deadline be set to?”
Having a total guest count is an important detail that some of your wedding vendors may need. This information may need to be confirmed anywhere from 2-4 weeks prior to your wedding date. Check in with your wedding vendors and see when they’ll need the final count, so you can determine the exact deadline.
Tip: Don’t forget to include the mailing address and postage on the RSVP return envelope.