Wedding Etiquette 101: What to Do When Your Guest Lists Are Disproportionate

As you have probably read about quite a lot, planning a wedding can be one of the most stressful events in your life. Of course, it can also be most amazing experiences you will ever get through.

Of all the wedding planning tasks, your guest list is one of the first and foremost important ones. It can also be one of the most stressful tasks as well – especially when you feel that your list is longer than your loved one’s (or the other way around).

What to do in these situations? How to plan your wedding guest list together and not fight over it?

We have some tips for you – continue reading and find out more.

  • Communication, communication, communication. You must have read and heard this a thousand times before, but there’s a pretty good reason everyone reiterates it: communication actually is the key ingredient of any successful relationship. Start your wedding planning by sitting down with your SO and discussing your idea of a perfect wedding – the style, the size, the kind of moments you want to create.
  • Family invitations can be tricky, but it can all be handled. Guess how? Through communication, of course. Talk to your fiancé and determine how far you want to go when it comes to inviting relatives. If needed, talk to your parents as well and clearly explain it to them that you only want to invite people you are actually close to you (and a cousin you haven’t seen in 15 years does not “qualify”).
  • Set your own rules. Discuss with your loved one and set the ground rules when it comes to who lands on the guest list and who doesn’t. For example, you might want to skip inviting people you haven’t seen in more than three years. Or you might want to skip inviting workmates, former classmates, or simply anyone you aren’t genuinely close to.
  • Set your priorities. Do you want to have a very large wedding? Perfect – but if your budget is restrained, you should be realistic about what can and can’t be done in your financial limits. Talk to your SO and set your priorities in terms of what you want from the Big Day – it will help you create a guest list you can both agree with.


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